The first steps in building ourselves, is spending time in prayer. We need to learn the urgency of praying. If we are going to pray, we must also learn how to pray correctly It will enable us as believers to be built up. We also need to pray consistently. We go about our daily lives and get so busy with other things, but if we want to grow, we have to also be consistent in our prayers. Set aside that special time to be with the Lord, make a prayer list of those special needs and people you want to pray for. Praying continually, contritely and courageously can lead us to that special relationship with the Lord to where He is never far from our thoughts.
"Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not." James 4:2